tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30051204.post115378316795863433..comments2024-03-28T08:50:02.164-04:00Comments on Gay Conservative Liberal: You're Still a Bad Parent -- Eff Your CertificateGay Conservative Liberalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16794634321370660899noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30051204.post-1153837740828674882006-07-25T10:29:00.000-04:002006-07-25T10:29:00.000-04:00I do believe in a sort of social net for those who...I do believe in a sort of social net for those who need protection from things that are out of their control. Cases like the one featured on the article not only burden the fragile system but insult those people that deserve the help, get it, and are automatically labeled as leeches. Infant and child nutrition aid should be limited to a certain number of children per woman or man or a combination because the current system of unlimited aid fosters reproduction within families that cannot afford it.<BR/><BR/>I work at an independent grocery store in Connecticut and the amount of young, able people that come to ask for work to simply then quit and collect unemployment is outstanding. We get many cases like that every year. While financially stable families plan their child bearing carefully it seems the poorer the family or person is the more children they are having. At the end it is a matter of education and upbringing and unfortunately it looks more and more like a vicious cycle given that these children will in all likelihood grow up in depressed conditions that offer little hope of advancement, proper socialization, and sometimes even common decency.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30051204.post-1153801923898269202006-07-25T00:32:00.000-04:002006-07-25T00:32:00.000-04:00Interesting, and I appreciate your perspective, co...Interesting, and I appreciate your perspective, coming from the background you describe. I didn't know that about you, and I think that too often issues like this are discussed and decided by people who have never once spoken to someone who's actually lived the life they're trying to regulate. <BR/><BR/>I glanced at, but didn't really read, that article in the NYT Magazine. I'm afraid that many of the best and most important Magazine articles are so long that Sunday readers like me look at them, go aww jeez I'll come back to this, then turn to sports or arts and never do come back. <BR/><BR/>But from what I saw, and from what you said, it's a very painful issue. Yes, children need their parents, even if only one is available. Yes, teenagers living in poverty can make terrible mistakes, getting pregnant and hooked on drugs. Yes, they are capable of rising above their mistakes and redeeming themselves, and should be encouraged to do so. <BR/><BR/>But whatever happens, children keep growing. A baby cannot put his growth on hold for six years while his mother gets her life straightened out. This is heartbreaking and painful. <BR/><BR/>But how to choose the course that, in the end, will cause the <I>least</I> heartbreak, and the <I>least</I> pain? How, considering that parents have always had to accept pain themselves in the best interests of their children? That's where the agony of decision lies.Steve T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12075948665118760070noreply@blogger.com